This past weekend, my sisters and I went up to Roxbury Motel (A fabulous bed and breakfast offering spa services and most importantly pop culture theme rooms...ours was the Shagadelic suite).  Our sole intention was to connect and practice self-healing and self-care.  That means we hiked, we talked for hours, we cried (at times simultaneously, at times individually), we laughed, we cuddled, we drank tequila, we drank water, we cooked, we drank champagne, we read each other's tarot cards and angel cards.  We loved, we accepted love.  We experienced vulnerability (Thanks Brenne Brown and Standing in Our Power), we saw each other fully.  WE ARE healing.  During morning prayers/meditations at my ancestral table I opened the book to this poem and want to share it with you.

In our own generation

we tremble on the verge of Flood.

The air is full of poison.

The rain, the seas, are full of poison.

The Earth hides arsenals of poisonous fire,

seeds of light surcharged with fatal darkness.

The ice is melting,

the seas are rising,

the air is dark with smoke and rising heat.

Who speaks for the redwood and the rock, the lion and the

beetle?

Who are our Noahs?

Who can teach us to be "Restful-ones"?

Where is our Ark?

Who can renew the Rainbow?

What must we do to reaffirm

the covenant between the Breath of Life

and all who live and breathe upon this planet?

-Arthur Waskow

P.s. I suspect, we; collectively and co-actively must renew the rainbow.

Today is both the anniversary of my arrival in the United States 21 years ago and my grandmother's passing 5 years ago.  Both transitions continue to be fueled by pain and deep transformative energy.  As I welcome the day, I increasingly feel her love and warmth.  Today her lessons, her legacy and her life are in full display in front of my 31 year old body and soul, in front of my 10 year old gaze.  I feel protected, light, cherished, encouraged, loved; she always made me feel that way.  I feel her spirit all around me more than ever before.  I see her selling ice out of her refrigerator and then giving me the money for candy.  I see her sitting by the river; feeling the breeze and listening to the rhythm of the waves when she became older and blind. I see her pretending to bite babies' legs and asking me to join her.  I see her smiling when I refused then; and smiling when I do the same thing to babies now.  Today I honor beginnings and endings; I honor continuum and unconditional love.  I honor transition and cherish uncertainty.  I honor her by listening to her now; deeply and openly.  I honor her by engaging in open dialogue with her spirit and welcoming her push me to  to stay in a place of gratitude, deep growth and responsibility to her spirit's journey as it continues to unfold alongside my.

It's nice to feel her spirit and not question it. 

Let's give you finality,

Today My Journey is Finally A Party

A gratitude poem for my mother

Today my journey is finally a party
a part
of our parts
of her parts

of the free smiles she
anoints me to distribute
of the hugs she shared with me
after a long
absence.

Not prolonged hugs
not close-proximity hugs
but deep hugs, filled with tender
awkwardness,
of healing
of a woman who never learned to touch
who hugged me for the first time when
I came back after my first 3 months in college
and maybe for the 4th time when my grandmother transitioned to the spirit world...
5 years later.

My mother doesn't hug I remember explaining to my first therapist
"Your mother rarely hugs," she said.


Over 10 years have passed since that first awkward adult hug
Over 10 years she got divorce; we shared pain.
I offered her love.
Then I got divorced, we shared resentment;
she gave me her deepest compassion.

We learned to see each other when we allowed ourselves
to fall apart/drift apart/ avoid each other/accept each other

Today she initiates, she lingers,
she gets close enough to let me feel her heart
and to let me fill her heart as it
beats with excitement.
She is still nervous about us, I think.
She misses me, I think.
She loves me.  I know.
She sees me.  I hope.

Today my journey is finally a party
Unequivocally a part of
Her
Her pain seamlessly composted into memories,
the same memories we are
weaving  into stories,
birthing into wisdom.

Today my journey is finally a party
because although she rarely touched me,
she always moved me.
She imparts her wisdom through laughter.
Laughter fueled by a brief childhood
laughter filled with light
of light filled with brightness.
This light
she always had, she always wanted me to have.
This light I didn't always see, but always feel.
This light I was afraid to own.
This light pushed me out, far, across the country
across class, across race, across to a perfect landing in invisibility.
and still kept me grounded in evolution, and torpedoing through layers and layers of generational pain.

And like a yin and yang when the time came and I was brave again
This same light pulled me back in. Like I never left.
And although not every day; every moment we touch, we laugh,
we share the light
it pushes her
and it pulls me
like a pendulum moving within perfect imbalance
and
when we are both brave, even after brief absences
we hug.

And that hug filled with her light

our light

makes my journey a party
for her.
for them.
for us.

{Thank you for the gift of life, Mami Fong}

Welcome back from Summer!!

The first day after vacation or holiday is always difficult.  A gentle reminder to hold on to your rejuvenation.

Yaromil Fong-Olivares is a certified life coach, fitness trainer and personal power blogger residing in New York City. If you want to achieve long-lasting happiness and success, contact her for coaching, training, writing, and speaking gigs at yaro@yaromilolivares.com.  To purchase my ebook THE HOLY GRAIL OF LIFE COACHING, click here. 

An important part of achieving success in life, love, and leisure is awareness of what challenges are ahead.  With authentic and compassionate awareness you can find ways to dance your way around your obstacles.  This doesn't always mean eliminating them or allowing them to reach under your resiliency skin to the point of frustration.  Learning about yourself, including your Achilles' heel, teaches you the climax and turning points of your bigger picture and provides scenic rest stops on your road to blissful and peaceful success in life, love and leisure. 

Fiercely face your Achilles' heel and courage will make sure the open road always finds you.

What's your Achilles' heel? [Photo by Ben Briu & Definitiion Merriam-Webster]

Yaromil Fong-Olivares is a certified life coach, fitness trainer and personal power blogger residing in New York City. If you want to achieve long-lasting happiness and success, contact her for coaching, training, writing, and speaking gigs at yaro@yaromilolivares.com.  To purchase my ebook THE HOLY GRAIL OF LIFE COACHING, click here. 

Tao Te Ching

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From the Tao Te Ching

Which is dearer, fame or your life?

Which is greater, your life or possessions?

Which is more painful, gain or loss?

Therefore we always pay a great price for excessive love

And suffer deep loss for great accumulation.

Knowing what is enough, you will not be humiliated.

Knowing where to stop, you will not be imperiled

And can be long-lasting.

-Lao Tzu

When you develop your connection to your spirit guides, your higher self grows exponentially.  You access your ancient knowledge.  Don't cheat yourself of your spiritual muscle for it will keep you more protected than your physical muscles.

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Naomi loves her ball.Naomi thinks she's getting her ball.Naomi is digging her ball deeper into the sand.Naomi loses her ball.

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Yaromil Fong-Olivares is a certified life coach, fitness trainer and personal power blogger residing in New York City. She has been helping women like you achieve happiness and success for a very long time and you can contact her for coaching, training, writing, and speaking gigs at yaro@yaromilolivares.com.  To purchase my ebook THE HOLY GRAIL OF LIFE COACHING, click here. 

If you understand others you are smart. 

If you understand yourself you are illuminated. 

If you overcome others you are powerful. 

If you overcome yourself you have strength. 

If you know how to be satisfied you are rich. 

If you can act with vigor, you have a will. 

If you don't lose your objectives you can be long-lasting. 

If you DIE WITHOUT LOSS, you are ETERNAL. 

-Lao Tzu

Copyright Yaromil Fong-Olivares, 2012

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Photo Credit: Benjamin Briu

I try not to rant on my blog but I think the time has come to break my own rule.  Lately I have been hearing a lot of our clients at Brownstone Fitness complain about their loved ones calling them skinny or warning them that they are “getting too skinny.”  I usually just respond “whoever said that is hating on you”, which the client finds surprising.  For starters we work really freaking hard at Brownstone to build muscle and strength.  We perform traditional male-centric exercises such as the deadlift, overhead press and pull-up.  We challenge ourselves with heavier weights, we keep ourselves engaged with a variety of modalities ranging from kettlebells, to calisthenics, to isometrics.  If that wasn’t enough we often have informal nutrition coaching conversations during and after training (a service other wellness centers charge for!).  We discuss ways to feel, perform and look better; inside and out.  WE support and encourage each other's goals.  And I’m not referring only to looking and feeling sexier in a dress (though that’s part of the benefit), I am talking about acquiring better form when performing advanced exercises such as rack walks, pull-ups, goblet squats and one-leg burpees with the TRX. 

So yes, it does annoy me when I hear about well-intentioned people who are not involved in a regular exercise routine use discouraging language because I cant help but think that  they are jealous of our clients’ commitment to exercise, health and body composition changes.  Although all of our clients are awesome and committed there’s always a hint of disappointment and concern in their voice.  They don’t want to receive that kind of feedback I am sure but they also care about the person delivering the feedback and do not want to be rude.  So, I’ll do it for them.  Friends, lovers, family, frenemies:

Stop the hating, and either join us.  You’ll be glad.  OR if you are not interested, keep your comments to yourself.  If you can’t say something nice don’t say anything at all.  If you can’t think of your own positive reinforcement here is a list of good ones:

 “Your arms look muscular”

“Your legs look toned”

“Your butt looks great”

“You are glowing”

“You are stronger than I thought”

 and my personal favorite,

 “You look better than you did in your 20s”

In regards to the "getting too skinny" thing I do believe there is value in pushing yourself to your limits as long as you are using healthy methods (i.e. eliminate processed carbs for a month). Health is an experiment of ONE.  Some people think that’s inaccurate because ONE is not a big enough sample. However, let’s consider the little known fact that the only health and fitness program that will work for you is the one you can stick to.  I encourage anyone who is undergoing major body composition transformation especially after struggling with too much body fat or too little muscle or even emotional eating, to experiment with a variety of health and fitness modalities, ideally with the support of ethical and kind professionals like us, and see how far you can take your health.  Think of it as grown-up health limbo: how healthy can you get.  This challenge is not about trying to reach a size zero or finally learning to do a full split; it’s about building the confidence muscle and learning that like everything else in life, regardless of how far off the health wagon you may get because of work stress, birthing, depression, or any other life experience, you can always come back to fitness again or for the first time.  The biggest gain of a regular and challenging exercise routine is not the weight you lose but the mental capacity you gain with progressing to heavier weights, showing up on a regular basis and accepting temporary defeat when you have reached your limit because you trust you’ll try again next time.  (And speaking of trying again, did I mention we have officially launched the best exercise DVD ever, the Sulaxmi Method Exercise DVD?  It's ready for you here.)  It is also extremely instructional to learn that anything you want that’s worth getting requires patience, commitment and unwavering determination.  So for all you lovable haters reading this, it does not have to be this way.  Like Gil-Scott Heron would say: “no matter how far wrong you’ve gone, you can always turn around…Turn around  and you may come full circle and be new here again.” 

You may come full circle into an isometric lunge, 12KG kettlebell goblet squat and 32KG kettlebell deadlift and be functional again.

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Yaromil Fong-Olivares is a certified life coach, fitness trainer and personal power blogger residing in New York City. Contact her for coaching, training, writing, and speaking gigs at yaro@yaromilolivares.com.  To purchase my ebook THE HOLY GRAIL OF LIFE COACHING, click here. 

But enough about me.  This post is about us. Women.  I often hear the philosophical mantra “Let food be thy medicine” used as reminder to eat healthier foods and eat more mindfully.  I like the mantra.  However, I think we as women have our own complicated and unique relationship to food and it would be helpful to get a little deeper with this one.  How about we try “Let food be thy MENTAL HEALTH medicine”.  Women who struggle with body image, self-steam, depression and overeating and develop food addictions can benefit from the journey of understanding who they are, accepting who they are and acknowledging that how they look and feel is not “all good”.  Now don’t get me wrong, I love all the fat women in my life.  I respect people who are proud and in charge of their health.  I do not offer information about weight loss, nutrition, fitness, unless I am asked.  My personal mission continues to be to contribute and add value and love to those who share my life journey with me, not to judge, evangelize or badger.  Sometimes I feel it affects my lifestyle coaching business.  I just cannot say, “Hey my way works, do it.”  While it works for me, the only nutrition and fitness plan that will work for you is the one you are willing to commit to.   In other words, if you are doing something to improve your health like Weight Watchers, calorie restriction, cardio, yoga, juicing or “cleansing” and is not getting you the results you want then stop wasting your precious time and try something else.  Sustainability is the key to lifestyle changes, forcing yourself to fit into somebody else’s idea of health and beauty does not work.  Learn as much as you can about the fitness and nutrition options that you find interesting and doable, experiment, and adjust accordingly. 

So I’ll come out and say it.  I am on a diet.  It’s the YARO diet.  It’s the one that works for me, it’s based on my understanding of the nutrition research I read, my education at Integrative Nutrition, and the American Council on Exercise, my work with women at Brownstone, the paleo philosophy, my upbringing in a family of Chinese-Dominican chefs and my many years of emotion-driven junk food consumption in New York City BUT most importantly it’s based on my knowledge of myself, my patterns, my weaknesses, my strengths and my emotional fluctuations.  Knowing I crave chocolate in a monthly basis, knowing if it’s in my house I will eat it and thus choosing not to buy it, knowing that eating processed carbohydrates constipates me and stresses me out, knowing that anger and sadness trigger my junk food cravings and knowing that I can train my palette to enjoy anything by combining repetition and hunger.  In other words, when my blood sugar is low (I am pre-diabetic and grew up with food scarcity) and all there is to eat is liver, that liver tastes amazing.

In conclusion, if you are struggling with weight loss to the point of feeling blue I recommend focusing your energy on learning about yourself. 

Some starter questions:

• What does it take for you to commit to a nutrition plan?  How about a fitness plan?
• Do you struggle with food scarcity trauma to the point of going into panic mode when you are hungry? 
• Do you crave specific foods when experiencing specific moods? 
• Do you crave love and reach for the candy? 
• Do you simply follow the latest diet or do you research first?
• Do you enjoy going to the gym or do you prefer personal training or small groups?
• Do you often start a fitness plan and a few weeks later find something else to do?
• Whose idea of what an ideal body should look like are you carrying?
• Do you judge other women whose bodies you think are more desirable than yours?  Why?  What's your definition of desirable?
• In a scale of 1 to 10 how desperate are you for a change?  Hint: if  you are not on the 8-10 range chances are you are not going to follow any plan.

Hans and I created the Grateful Living Teleseminar to give women who want permanent health (i.e. 8-10 range and ready for a change) on their terms a safe space to learn about practical research-proven wellness and health and explore what works for you in a supportive and intimate environment.  It’s a bad business choice, we could just tell you what to do, send you on your way and wait for you to come back to us with so-so results but, we would rather give you a sustainable way to flourish, feel great inside and out and enjoy all that our beautiful world has to offer so that perhaps you can contribute your unique talents too.  We don’t want your money (the 10-week class is only $270).  We want you to join us in the fight against expensive diet pills, big box gyms, genetically-modified foods, pesticides, environmental racism, irresponsible and misleading marketing (especially in favor of soy, wheat and sugar), surgeries, and fad diets.  We must build a movement from the ground up by organizing the fitness industry’s main target: women.  Together we can fight back with knowledge and action and look and feel strong, sexy, and serene while doing it.

 screen shot from Cornell's Food Psychology Page

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Yaromil Fong-Olivares is a lifestyle coach, fitness trainer and personal power blogger residing in New York City. Contact her for coaching, training, writing, and speaking gigs at yaro@yaromilolivares.com.  To purchase my ebook THE HOLY GRAIL OF LIFE COACHING, click here. 

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And now for the 411

Grateful Living 10-week Teleclass, what the heck is that?

A virtual class on practical wellness for busy women who reject dieting as a lifestyle and want to eat for optimal health, exercise for functional fitness and live happy and well. 

Class Syllabus 

Week 1: Snack Craving Elimination

Week 2: Supplements (vitamins, macronutrients, micronutrients)

Week 3: Meal Balancing 

Week 4: Sleep

Week 5: Sugar Craving Elimination

Week 6: Exercise

Week 7: Portion Control

Week 8: Relaxation Techniques & Solitude Practice

Week 9: Wheat & Flour Elimination

Week 10: Intermittent Fasting & Cleansing  

Schedule

To accommodate the majority of participants we have moved the weekly LIVE teleseminars to Thursdays at 4PM ET.  The first teleseminar, Snacking, is scheduled for Thursday May 17th, @ 4PM ET.  

Attendance

While we strongly believe in the power of group learning we understand that you are busy and may have to miss class sometimes.  We want all women to participate and to eliminate schedule-related excuses all participants receive a link to the recording of the seminar within 24 hours of the LIVE class.  

Individual Coaching

All participants receive one half hour individual coaching session with either Hans or Yaro. 

Email Coaching

Whether you choose to participate in the LIVE teleseminar or listen to the recording on your own time (or both), we are available to answer your questions via email.  You may email Hans (hans@hanshageman.com) or Yaro (yaro@hanshageman.com) or both! 

Text Coaching

We want to help you stay on track by sending you activity reminders and encouraging text messages directly to your phone.   

What is a teleclass?

A class you take from home via the phone or the internet.  Each week you receive an email from Hans Hageman with the call-in number and code to the email you provide.   The email also includes the link to the online site that allows you to participate via the internet. 

Can I sign-up for only one class?

No. The classes and learning flow from one week to the next and the activities (homework) build on each other.  If you are interested in general wellness education you may sign up for our FREE teleseminar series here and we'll keep you posted on the next one.  If you want a more comprehensive experience and are ready to get started with the 10-week class go here  to sign-up and submit payment. Payment plans available for qualified participants (including students, nonprofit workers, stay-at-home moms and educators). 

Who is Hans Hageman?

Hans is my business partner and friend.  We worked together at Boys & Girls Harbor where he was Executive Director and I was Development Director.  We resigned together, in protest to the board's decision to shut down the high school he founded and initially hired me to help manage.  He has over 25 years of fitness and wellness experience (he was also Gym teacher at the school) and you can read his bio on the Brownstone Fitness site by clicking here.   

Did I miss anything?  Let me know. 

Yaromil Fong-Olivares is a lifestyle coach, fitness trainer and personal power blogger residing in New York City. Contact her for coaching, training, writing, and speaking gigs at yaro@yaromilolivares.com.  To purchase my ebook THE HOLY GRAIL OF LIFE COACHING, click here.  To purchase my exercise video, The Sulaxmi Exercise Method, click here.

 p.s. Are you enjoying my first ebook, The Holy Grail of Life Coaching?  Please don't tell me you haven't read it...It's only $4.99 on Smashwords.com!!

By Yaromil Fong-Olivares

A couple of days ago my younger sister interviewed me for her class project on "exceptional women".  I learned more about myself through her insightful questions than I expected and best of all it felt good to speak about our shared experiences honestly and candidly.  Whereas I can't add  being an awesome older sister to my resume or CV I must say it's part of my DNA.  It is possibly one of my most prestigious accomplishments.  I am not perfect, and sometimes as my little sisters would say, I am indeed a "hater".  If being a "hater" means I get to  question some of their beliefs and challenge them to think critically and beyond the status quo, well then "odiadora" (hater in Spanish) it is.

But this blog is not about how great it felt to hear her speak of the qualities of an exceptional woman and how she came to choose me.  It's not even about how important it is to connect with young women on the topics of success, beauty, drive and self-love.  I am not even going to write about the joys of discovering feminism's newest recruits.  Though hearing my once obnoxiously rebellious little sister proudly and accurately defining feminism and claiming it as her own made my heart tingle and my eyes water with joy. 

This blog post is about silence.  Well, actually, it's about breaking the silence.  See, as you may know my father wasn't the most friendly and supportive of dads.  At some point I might have even called him abusive.  Now, I have evolved passed the victim identity and into my power and recognize his struggles with compassion and even love.   I have also developed an amazing friendship with a man who is old enough to be my dad, and quite frankly is way more butch and masculine than most men, a manly man I guess.  I realize now that through the development of that friendship I learned to trust and love men who earn my trust and love.  I also learned that everyone has a story, and everyone including men who are abusive feel pain, heartache and loss. 

I am not saying I am exonerating him (choice of word intentional) rather, I have found my own peace within my journey, my power beyond him and my experience of him and with him.  

The reason this blog is about encouraging you to break the silence is that before my sister Stephanie interviewed me I declined to share any negative experiences of my father with her and my other siblings.  I feared that by sharing too much I would "share my trauma" and taint their perception of my dad.   After years of working with youth I know that young people, even the toughest of all thugs, are sensitive and fragile.  As an awesome older sister I try to protect them from harm, when possible.  However, now that she is 18 years old, old enough to make her own decisions and inquiries, I could tell during the interview she was eager to learn not just about how wonderful my life as a "successful woman" is, but also about the struggles.  I admit at first I felt it was gossip-motivated (she is 18 and remember I am a "hater", i.e. critical thinker).  But her compassionate line of questions, her mannerisms, her eye contact and deep listening demonstrated a thirst for a deeper connection with me, perhaps even a sincere desire for a shared understanding of the differences in our experiences with the man I call by first name and she calls dad. 

The feelings that came up for me during the interview remind me of a famous quote by Audre Lorde that I think is quite relevant here: "Our silence will not protect us".  I agree with Audre Lorde and also want to suggest that silence does not protect the survivor (me in this case) AND it also does not protect those we most want to protect (my siblings, mother).  Instead it creates a schism of pain and resentment between the survivor and those who love her.  This whole time I was healing alone, on my own, because I wanted to protect others from my trauma but I neglected to realize that I, by protecting them from my trauma,  was also unintentionally robbing them of the joy, lesson and power of sharing my journey of transformation and healing.  I thought, as I answered honestly for the first time, what if I am face to face with my path? sitting with my little sister,  teaching her about overcoming struggle but also about learning and teaching others how to go beyond survival into the beautiful land of healing, love and fearless value-driven power.  Note, power has to be fearless and fueled by positive values in order for it to be healing and expansive.  Power alone is not enough and can in fact be dangerous.

So when Stephanie asked me about my hobbies, my five year plan, my thousand and one interests I honestly (and for the first time) uttered:  I want to inspire and teach women to be happy.  I could tell it wasn't what she was expecting, and I imagine her school's staff hammers in the message of higher education, being a doctor or a lawyer, I know that was certainly my intention when I entered Barnard.  I am grateful for that message for it's certainly valuable and a nice balance to the more common message to "get married and have some babies right after high school".

And yet as I continued to exploit my soapbox as a rare moment of spiritual and emotional connection with my sister I shared with her that I wish so much more than traditional success for her and all young women.  I wish for all women to also be happy, to be content, and to work hard because they want to contribute to the world by doing something they truly love and makes them happy, whatever that may be.  I also wish for women to be safe, strong, feel beautiful, feel worthy and feel amazing.  Those things may not make it into your resume, but trust me they show and make you radiant whether you are working at a big time corporate firm or bagging someone's groceries.  As for me, I am ok uttering the right things even when my sisters don't want to hear them and being called a "hater" because every time I teach someone something that gets them closer to permanent happiness despite all the things that seem, feel, or go wrong I know I am fulfilling my mission to make the world a better, friendlier place for all women and the men who love us. 

Yaromil Fong-Olivares is a life coach and personal power blogger residing in New York City. Contact her for coaching, training, writing, and speaking gigs at yaro@yaromilolivares.com.  To purchase my ebook THE HOLY GRAIL OF LIFE COACHING, click here.  To purchase my exercise video, The Sulaxmi Exercise Method, click here.